I had a horrible dream last night.
Riding in the very back seat of a passenger van on a two lane blacktop highway at night, I looked up to see that I was the only one in the van. No driver, no other passengers and the van was starting to veer off of the road. I struggled to unstrap myself from the seat so that I could somehow climb over all the seats, get behind the wheel and save myself from certain disaster. I woke up sweating. When I told my wife about the dream she pointed out how symbolic it was for my life at this time. Strange, I couldn’t even see the symbolism until she pointed it out to me.
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My guess is you have, in one form or another. I believe we have all had the same dream. It’s the thought of things being out of our control that is the center of all fear. So what can we do about it?
Focus on What You CAN Do, Not What You Can’t
Everyday I try to remind myself of this thought, but still I falter. It’s played itself out over and over, the thought of “oh I can’t do that”, generally when it is something I really CAN’T do at the time. But when I boil it down, there is usually something I CAN do, one small step towards a larger goal.
What I CAN’T Do
If I were to start listing what I can’t do (hahaha) I could go on forever, but here’s a few things off the top of my head:
1. Become instantly famous as a singer, documentary filmmaker, writer or media consultant.
2. Become the greatest father in the world who never makes any mistakes in dealing with my teenage daughter.
3. Solve problems of poverty, immigration, energy dependence or any other major issue facing our world today.
4. Make everyone understand what my dreams and aspirations are exactly as I see them.
What I CAN Do
1. Write and publish blog posts.
2. Produce videos and post them to Youtube.
3. Sing every chance I get.
4. Try each day to communicate more effectively.
5. Be honest in my dealings with others both personally and professionally.
The point is that this second list (What I CAN Do) can go on forever as well, as long as I am willing to see my life in this way.
Confessions of a Former News Junkie
I had a serious addiction to the news starting when I was a staff cameraman for CNN in the early 1990’s. Not only did I work in the industry, I began following stories all the time, even when I was off of work. When I left that business I went “cold turkey” for a while and followed very little as I was in a serious news burn-out phase of my life (another story for another time). Over the years (I have been a freelancer since 1995) I have allowed myself to get back into watching and reading news on a limited basis. I sometimes get addicted to certain stories and follow them zealously. But I realize that it feeds the feeling of uncertainty, the feeling that the world is out of control, that I am NOT in control. Again the feeling of “all is lost” comes over me. So I try these days to keep it in check, and I suggest you do as well.
Facts is Facts
The truth is there are all kinds of things we have no control over, things we CAN’T do. If I focus on those, my experience has been that it just brings me down. Instead, look around you. Look at the people and situations closest to you, look for positive things you CAN do and focus on those. It’s empowering once you start to look at things that way. But no doubt, every once in awhile you may have a dream like I had and feel right back in the muck again. That’s part of the human condition.
The Social Freelancer ™ Blog: Writing this post has already made me feel better about the bad dream experience. Now I have done something about it, something I CAN do, which is to write about the dream. I do this with hope that it will be helpful to you.
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Trace Relations Debut CD – Prosperity Street I have been passionate about music, songwriting and singing my entire life and have had many experiences (good and bad) in the music business. Many years ago I realized that music would not be a good career choice for me. Since then I have focused on doing a little bit at a time towards an overall goal.
Just writing that that made me feel pretty good! It’s something I CAN do…
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