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Starting from a place of humanity

Someone angered me on a job. Now I’m driving home, seething. Someone cuts me off on the road. I boil some more. I walk into the house and discover dog poop on the living room carpet and a tail wagging dog demanding my immediate attention when all I want to do is sit down and have a beer. I yell at the dog, then feel guilty about it. A suck-y day.

Taking a look within

Taking a look within

Sound familiar? It should because “that’s life”.
I have succumbed to the anger spiral way too often, but I think I am getting a bit better.

I started by reminding myself that everybody has issues. The person who initially pissed me off could be going through an incredible emotional upheaval; a divorce, a death in the family, a problem child at home or an unreasonable boss. Starting from a place of humanity means understanding that there is another thinking, feeling human being on the other side of the equation.

So what?
My own cycle of stress stemmed from one altercation on the job. Once I realize that my adversary is probably suffering in some way too, I can stop feeling angry about the squabble. I feel some compassion and understanding, putting me in a better frame of mind when I hit the road. The person cutting me off doesn’t bother me as much, and the dog? Forget about it, I’d love him and feel sorry for him anyway.

One change in perception can alleviate a whole day of tension and wasted mental energy (anger).

What say you? Comments invited and appreciated in the section below. Thanks!

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Trace Ready "The Social Freelancer"

Trace Ready “The Social Freelancer”

Trace Ready is a Director of Photography, Writer, Producer and Vocalist based in Dallas, Texas. His band Trace Relations has released their debut studio CD “Prosperity Street”
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posted by Tracy Ready in Opinion,Psychology,The Social Freelancer and have Comments (4)

4 Responses to “Starting from a place of humanity”

  1. stan stewart says:

    My humanity is honored to witness yours. I struggled with anger and victim reactions for years. It took a ton of work to get to the place where I can choose a different response.
    May you encounter many more blessings (even the ones like the upsetting customer) on your path!

  2. Karen says:

    Through my own struggles,I have learned that you Never know what is going on in someone else’s life. Try not to automatically react. Take a moment,breath,and try to act from a place of humanity. I slip and fail,especially when it comes to “other” drivers. I’m working on it.

  3. Sona says:

    Your are right of course and I think most logical, stable people already know this to be true…BUT…sometimes we are more vulnerable for a variety of reasons and its difficult to accept the inherent cruelty of some of the people we need to deal with regardless of any empathy we feel towards them in a saner (more sane?) moment. Just be kind.

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